Navigating Grief: Finding Comfort and Embracing the Path to Healing.

Have you felt grief? Perhaps from losing a loved one, a job, going through a divorce, having a miscarriage, ending a relationship, unfulfilled dreams, a home, a pet, or facing financial issues?

Today, my sincere wish is to offer you some encouragement, words of comfort and share tools that could support you during this period of grief.

While I may not fully grasp the depth of your emotions, I want to express my heartfelt sympathy for your situation. Having faced numerous losses myself, I understand that this time can be incredibly challenging.

God draws near to those who are broken, in pain, and enduring suffering.

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4.

In my own journey through the losses of cherished individuals, financial setbacks, job changes, relationship endings, and even unfulfilled dreams of a husband and child, I found solace in journaling, embracing the comfort of God, and working through my grief with a counselor and attending grief support class.

Attending the grief support class and continually meeting with a counselor, has given me the space to openly share my feelings, receive healing and guidance during difficult times.

How Grief Impacts Us:

The experience of grief and the loss of a loved one manifests differently in each individual and encompasses various stages.

Initially, one may find themselves in the busy phase characterized by shock and denial. This is the period when preparations for the funeral take place, belongings are sorted, properties are sold, and wills are examined.

Next, as the chaos subsides and the presence of others diminishes, feelings of profound sadness may emerge.

Subsequently, this can evolve into a phase marked by anger, regrets, and profound mourning. One may find themselves reflecting on thoughts such as, “I wish I had done or said this to that person.” This can also give rise to feelings of depression. While the intensity of these emotional responses varies from person to person, it is crucial not to suppress your feelings. Taking the necessary time to process and mourn is both healthy and beneficial.

What Happens When We Numb and Avoid our Emotions

In periods of mourning, bereavement, and struggle, individuals may find themselves inclined to seek ways to numb their emotions. Some resort to substances such as alcohol and drugs, indulge in food, engage in shopping, or overextend themselves with commitments to distract from their pain. If this resonates with you, or if you have a history of addiction, I urge you to connect with a counselor or a trusted individual to discuss your feelings.

How to Embrace Healing

Numerous resources exist that can assist you in navigating this challenging time. These encompass counselors, grief specialists, educational classes, divorce support, and organizations like Stephen’s Ministries, as well as guidance from pastors and mentors. Such resources can typically be located at local churches, hospitals, and various organizations, and may even be included in your employment benefits. Many workplaces provide employee assistance programs that allow you to speak with someone who can offer support.

Suggestions for Well-Being:

· Engage in regular exercise

· Spend time outdoors and breathe in fresh air

· Maintain a healthy diet

· Consider massages

· Ensure you are well-hydrated

· Practice journaling

· Embrace laughter

· Communicate and spend time with loved ones

· Engage in activities that bring you joy

How To Support Others Experiencing Grief

Should you be aware of an individual navigating a period of grief or loss, I urge you to connect with them. Providing a listening ear and dedicating your time can be one of the most meaningful gifts you offer. Additional ideas include: a meal, assist with home chores, babysitting, and even a financial contribution to release money burdens. Reaching out to those following grief is particularly significant during the 90 days following the loss, as this timeframe often represents a peak in grief and others go back to normal life.

Once more, I want to express my heartfelt sorrow for this challenging time and extend my deepest condolences. I pray that the God of comfort draws close to you.

Comforting Bible Verses: 

Psalms 34:18, Psalms 147:3, Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, Matthew 5:4, 2 Corinthians 1:3-5, Revelations 21:4

Grief Support Resources:

Grief Share. https://www.griefshare.org

Stephen’s Ministries-https://www.stephenministries.org/griefresources/default.cfm/774

Suicide Prevention: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/suicide-prevention

Mental Health & Addiction Helpline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline

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Should you be aware of individuals who could gain from this message, do not hesitate to pass it along to others.

Blessings,

Lisa Hice

Speaker, Life Coach and Content Creator